Hoʻoponopono helps us to embrace true love

I felt inspired to share my story about the hoʻoponopono way of life and how it helped me to save my relationship with a true love of mine. Perhaps someone reading this blog might be going through the very same thing or has previously. I am a 22-year-old Maui girl. My grandaunt, Donna Vida has been living this way of life as long as I have known her. She is encouraging me to expand my own understanding of who I am and to create the life I deserve. I know I am a spiritual being and more than the limiting beliefs I have about myself that cause me to withdraw from the world. When I feel uncomfortable in my body, my ʻuhane (ego mind) will overthink issues. And I have suffered from body dysmorphia most of my life. But I never knew that this mental and emotional pattern of my ʻuhane would threaten me with the loss of my true love. But it did.

True love has been hard for me to find in my life and then about seven months ago he showed up. He’s caring, helpful, and loving. A solid one-of-a-kind man, hunter, gatherer, solution-focused, self-driven, handsome, hilarious, and fun to spend time with. We love exploring the island, camping, and being in nature are regular things for us. We share similar values and interests. My family loves him. Yes, we have our differences, but what couple doesn’t. He’s the one for me. We both knew instantly when we first met that we were meant to be together.

We start to envision a life together and having a family. We decide to move in together to experience the realness of what our relationship might be like in the long run. Getting married is a huge decision for us. We moved in together and things started out well. The support and love for each other were growing. However, things seem to come to a halt the week of Halloween. I was unhappy with myself and going into my usual pattern of withdrawal, which he is aware happens when I need to focus on myself. However, this time it made him feel unhappy to be with me and helpless in not knowing how to fix it. We were both struggling with our own emotions and projecting it onto each other. We decided to spend some time apart. I felt relieved that I would have the space to get grounded and centered in myself and my love for him. It was hard, once again, I was struggling with loving myself.

I told him that I knew he was not responsible for what I was feeling, and I did not expect or believe he was responsible for making me feel better. It was very difficult for him to hear me share this with him. I could feel him shutting down and pulling away. It terrified me, as I already missed him while giving space. All my ‘uhane could see was the worst-case scenario, that he is going to leave me.

It’s a day or two after Halloween; I am crying inside and outside while I share with Aunty Donna what’s going on with me and my true love. She encouraged me to trust in the love we both shared, that I could feel in my heart. She also encouraged me to pull back my energy by engaging in a project. I stopped calling and texting him. I still struggled with the fear that he was going to leave me. After a couple of days, the limiting beliefs and emotional patterns inside me were getting clearer and I so wanted him to know this. I was figuring it out and got a glimpse of how I can change it and our relationship can still work. Especially since the struggle within myself, has happened before and I knew how to better myself.

Later on, I felt this desire in my na’au (heart) to call him and let him know what I discovered. I shared this desire in me with my Aunty Donna and she responded, “Trust in your na’au.” I called him. He could not hear what I was saying. He sounded overwhelmed and determined to end the relationship. He hung up after saying he would drop off the rest of my belongings. My eyes filled with tears feeling broken-hearted as I sat with my Aunty and shared, “It’s over. He ended it.” She looked at me, shakes her head. “No, it’s not.”, she says, “Nohea trust in your love for him. Your ʻuhane is always thinking and wants to express itself all the time. Do it in the spiritual realm. Trust in your own ability to communicate with him in spirit from your heart, not your mind. Your ʻuhane needs to express itself, don’t give up or give into ʻuhane’s limiting beliefs about itself. Trust in your love for him. Trust in your connection to your inner family.”

I decided to accept Aunty’s guidance. I spent most of the night reaching out to my own inner family. I felt an intimacy with my ‘aumakua and was receptive to the wisdom inside me that I was asking for. I then felt the desire to call on his inner family and I asked for his forgiveness. I was there with him in the spiritual realm affirming the love we have for each other. I shared my true desire for him to have happiness in his life. We shared ways we can support each other during tough times while still growing our relationship. I affirmed that the relationship had not ended because I could still feel the love in his heart for me. It is real. We cannot deny our love for each other. I felt certain and shared my belief that we are meant to be together. That what we have is a true love connection that I know in my mind and can feel it in my heart and body as true. Our personal happiness is meant to be shared with each other, not separate and sheltered within.

I slept through the night. I woke up the next morning and began to do my own personal prayers and cleared myself of negative energies. I grounded my feelings of love for him in my heart. I felt at peace. I went to my phone and there was a text from him saying he wanted more time to talk and asked me to accompany him on errands. Hope blossomed in my heart, and I soon learned from him that he did not want to end the relationship. Like I experienced in the spiritual realm he started to affirm his love for me. He did not want to give up. We both felt the willingness to grow our relationship by focusing on what really works well for us. What a huge relief. We both got back our inner glow of true love and happiness.

I have tried to connect with the spirit of others in the past, but it never seemed to work out. What was different this time was the full commitment to ground that love in my body, mind, and heart to make it grow. I am so grateful that we can share our spiritual experiences with each other. We both know how to communicate with each other in spirit because we have that heart connection. And, after this experience, we know better how to work through our personal struggles with each other in the spiritual realm first, before communicating face to face. It’s not always easy but it works. There is power in my intention and desires.

The spiritual realm of life is vibrational, and it is real! It can also be magical when good things happen for you overnight as it did for me and my true love. I am blessed by my Hawaiian lineage in learning to live the hoʻoponopono way of life. I highly encourage you to learn more about how you can overcome limiting beliefs and find your true love by signing up for my Aunty Donna’s courses that teach us how to love ourselves in simple and powerful ways that support us in attracting our true love. We all have to learn to love and trust in ourselves to create the life we deserve. It involves taking risks and leaps that are uncomfortable and stretches us forward in our relationships in life.

Go to https://donnavida.net for more information on The Hoʻoponopono Way of Life and sign up for the online courses and other services being offered on the website. Many blessings and aloha. Mahalo! E’o